One of the first things you hear from other people when they discover you homeschool is ‘I could never do that…’ followed by a few different reasons, one of the most common being ‘…I need a break from my kids’. Then there’s a comment about how I must be some kind of super mum. I hate to ruin your illusions (and maybe I should just shut up now lol) but I’m not a ‘super mum’. I’m just a normal mum. In fact, there’s a lot of time in my day just for doing this…
Yep, relaxing with a cup of tea while the kids play and do their own thing. You might find it hard to believe but even though I have three girls aged 6, 4, and 16 months, I don’t find my life or homeschooling particularly hard, busy, or stressful. Sure, there are times that are busier than others or hard times when some/all of us are sick. But on the whole, things are enjoyable and I rarely get that ‘I need a break now!’ feeling. This is pretty much the opposite of what people expect. It’s not very common to have all of your kids with you 24/7.
So, how can this be the case? Well, just think about it. Most people have their kids in school. Although it seems like school might give you a great break it also often comes with added stress and rushing around. There’s trying to get the kids ready on time in the morning, packing lunches, school drop off, pick-up, homework, getting stuff ready for the next day, etc. That’s a lot of stuff packed into a few hours! So if you’re used to this lifestyle then spending all day long with your kids and never having a break can seem daunting.
The truth is, it’s very different. I don’t have anywhere to be at a certain time in the morning so our days can start as slow as we like. We can do as much or as little as we feel like on any given day. We encourage independence so a lot of the time the kids are doing their own thing with little involvement from me. Our home is set up so that they can access all of their things by themselves and don’t need my help. As far as the homeschooling side of things goes, well we unschool so that makes things a whole lot easier too. There’s no curriculum or timetables or deadlines. We move at our own pace and follow our own interests. Life is simple.
You know that feeling of freedom you get when you’re on holidays? Well, it’s kind of like that.
So the truth is, I’m no super mum. I just have time on my side. Instead of having less time with all three kids home all the time, I actually feel like I have more. I feel like any spare time I might gain by having kids in school would not be worth it as it would actually be a big sacrifice to our lifestyle. Right now we can really slow down and appreciate life. I also get to enjoy my kids for the best part of their day, instead of being restricted to the morning rush and late afternoon/dinner time madness.
I can’t speak for everyone but I feel like the belief that spending 24/7 with your kids is difficult and unmanageable is yet another homeschooling myth. It’s actually very enjoyable and not that hard. I love spending my days with these little people.
Tell me, do you homeschool? Do you agree or disagree?