This post is part of a series documenting everyday respectful parenting moments. Reading real life parenting examples inspires me. I also find it helpful to look back on situations and think about what went well or what didn’t. Maybe you will too!
Ahhh nappy changes! An area that can become a battle! And it has at times. When I’m impatient, when I’m rushing, when I’m bossy. But it doesn’t have to be, as I was reminded today…
Me: I need to change your nappy
Miss 2: No! (turns away from me).
Me: I need to take it off.
Miss 2: NOOOO!!!! (stomps foot).
Me: You don’t want to. You don’t like getting your nappy changed. I’m worried that you might get a sore bottom, so I want to change it.
Miss 2: (Still facing the other way but obviously listening)
Me: We can do it when you’re ready. I’m going to wait at the change table for you.
Miss 2: Ok Mama.
I wait for a couple of minutes until she comes walking in and asks me to hold the piece of carrot she’s eating.
Me: Do you want to climb up by yourself, or do you want me to pick you up?
Miss 2: Delf (self, something she says often at almost 2 years).
She climbs up with some help and lies still, happily talking to me while I change her nappy.
And again I’m reminded of the rewards of slowing down and being respectful. It might seem like a ‘routine’ thing for me, but it isn’t for her. It’s reasonable for her to want control of when and how this happens. A little time and patience goes a long way.