40 Comebacks for Rude Strangers That Comment on Your Family
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40 Comebacks for Rude Strangers That Comment on Your Family

40 Comebacks for Rude Strangers That Comment on Your Family

I’m getting pretty tired of the fact that the majority of the time I’m in public with my kids, we are insulted.

Insulted by people trying to make conversation and be friendly, I think? Though sometimes that’s hard to believe when their comments are very blatantly rude.

Here’s the latest example…

Checkout lady: “Four girls, wow. Didn’t you want a boy?”
Me: “Um… yeah four girls”
Lady: “Wow I feel so sorry for your partner!”
Me: “Why? Girls are awesome”
Lady: “Haha. Oh just being surrounded by girls. Poor thing.”

Only a week earlier my husband received this…

Stranger: “Oh 3 girls! What did you do wrong?”
Him: “Actually I have 4 so I must have done a lot of things right!”

Is it really that hard to believe that people might be happy with their children? Is it really that difficult to recognise that these are incredibly rude and hurtful things to say in front of said children?

The number of times my girls have heard commiserations from strangers over their existence is beyond belief. And I’m feeling pretty done.

What I need is to be more prepared.

40 Comebacks for Rude Strangers That Comment on Your Family

When I shared about our latest encounter I received lots of good advice from people who find themselves regularly in the same position. Whether it’s comments about their children’s gender, their family size, or comments on how horrible children are in general. Sooo many people. So many wonderful children receiving the message that they were a disappointment to their parents. So many people, enough that we can start changing this.

What if our responses could make people reconsider their throw away comments? What if we could help them realise how rude and invalidating these remarks were? All we need is a little bit of preparation and courage right? Will you join me?

I’ve made a list of things I can say and next time I will be ready.

So here are my thoughts…

Start With Positivity

Most of these people are trying to be friendly and start a conversation, just in a very misguided way. And we’d also like to avoid awkwardness and send our kids a positive message right? So I think start with positivity! Change the tone and send the message that those comments are way way off the mark.

Whether it’s ‘poor you having so many girls/boys’, or a comment on the size of your family like ‘surely you’re done now?’ or ‘don’t you own a TV’, throw them back some positive vibes.

“We’re really happy!”

“Aren’t children just awesome?”

“We love our family!”

“Girls/boys rock!”

“We are so blessed”

“I wouldn’t have it any other way”

“Yes, my hands are full, but my heart is fuller”

“My partner loves his/her kids, of course.”

“Yes, I’m totally crazy about them!”

40 Comebacks for Rude Strangers That Comment on Your Family

Repeat the Question

Sometimes positivity doesn’t put them off, like in the example above… time for approach number two! Repeat the question back to them, as if asking for clarification. Surely if they really hear what they are asking, and have to explain their question further, it will become obvious how rude it is? We can only hope…

“Did we want boys instead of the girls we have?”

“Is my partner unhappy with his/her children?”

“Are you asking whether some of my children were unplanned?”

“Do we own a TV? Are you asking about our sex life?”

“Are you hoping that we are done having children? Why?”

“Are you asking if we love our children, despite their gender?”

Or just ask them to explain…

“I’m not sure what you mean? Could you repeat the question?”

“Why?”

40 Comebacks for Rude Strangers That Comment on Your Family

Call Them Out

Ok say you’ve tried the positivity approach, you’ve tried to get them to see the error of their ways themselves, and yet they’re still intent on their rudeness. Let’s just call them out on it now. Or if their tone is quite mean to begin with let’s just jump straight to this approach…

“Did you mean to be so rude?”

“Are you implying I’m unhappy with my children?”

“Wow, that’s pretty offensive.”

“I’m happy with my family thanks.”

“I’m not sure my family planning is any of your business.”

“We’re not looking for your opinion on our family thank you.”

“Please don’t comment negatively about my children, especially in front of them.”

“Are you serious?”

“Do you realise how insulting that is?”

40 Comebacks for Rude Strangers That Comment on Your Family

If You’re Feeling Snarky

Ok, I’m not opposed to a bit of snarkiness depending on my mood/patience/how many times I have dealt with such comments this week. People are trying to be funny at our expense? Well two can play at that game…

“Why would their sex matter? I don’t plan on inbreeding them”

“We’re happy with these amazing children, regardless of their genitalia, thanks”

“I didn’t quite catch that, but I’ll assume you were complimenting my lovely family. Thanks!”

“You know they can hear you, right?” (gesturing to children)

“I’m not actually sure if we’re done having kids yet, I’ll check back with you when we decide, can I get your number?”

“Yes they’re all mine, did you want one or something?”

“What am I hoping for? A baby, but a puppy would be cute too”

“Do we own a TV? Of course, but we turn it off and have sex.”

“Do we own a TV? Yes, but if you think that’s more fun then I’d say you’re doing it wrong.”

“I’m not sure if you’re aware, but you just said that out loud”

“No, my partner is not disappointed to have daughters, he’s not a misogynistic jerk.”

“Do we know what causes it? Yeah, we just like having sex I guess, don’t you?”

“Do we know what causes it? No, could you explain it to us?”

“The only thing I’m disappointed about is being a part of this conversation.”

40 Comebacks for Rude Strangers That Comment on Your Family

Be Brave

It’s astounding to me that people feel these sorts of comments are funny or appropriate, and really highlights the culture of childism that runs through our society. People think nothing of openly expressing their judgement of children’s existence. They freely offer up their appraisal and ask you to join in too, in front of the children!

Newsflash people, children aren’t asking for your evaluation. They don’t need your permission to exist. They are not here solely to please others. They don’t deserve to be made fun of or talked about as if they weren’t even there. Would it be appropriate for a stranger to start a conversation by asking if you were happy with your partner, joking about them being a ‘handful’, or saying you must be crazy to have them in your life? No, that would be absurd! People only do it about children because they are not seen as equal, and often not even human.

40 Comebacks for Rude Strangers That Comment on Your Family

I know it’s awkward to call people out on their behaviour, but change can’t come through our silence. We can make a difference! And at the end of the day, what is most important here? A little bit of awkwardness or perpetuating childism? Confronting someone or our children receiving the message that they are not good enough?

We can do it! Change starts with us.

40 Comebacks for Rude Strangers That Comment on Your Family

Comments

August 11, 2017 at 11:05 pm

It’s so affirming to hear that we aren’t there only one to deal with this! I find it so disheartening that folks aren’t more encouraging when they see parents with their children in public! We have 5 girls and three boys and I can’t believe the comments when we go out. Someone actually said, “it’s not like you need them to run the farm!” As if the only reason it would make sense to have children would be to assist with farm chores. So sad.



    Ray Robbins
    August 12, 2017 at 10:18 pm

    Her best reply (if you really want to change their heart/direction) is ‘We are so blessed’. The biblical view is that children are ‘a heritage from the Lord’, and ‘blessed is the man who has his quiver full of them’. If they are complaining about children don’t they realize they were once one?



renette bindemann
August 11, 2017 at 11:53 pm

oh I’m laughing now because yes, we also get it. we have 4 boy-children whom we love to the moon and back!!!
so my husband has this brilliant answer to THOSE questions from strangers… so I answer the same now….
My wife loves children and I love my wife, what can I say?
☺always work to shut them.



August 12, 2017 at 12:22 am

This is great! Is this really happening to you the majority of the time you are out?! I get a comment like “You’ve got your hands full.” Maybe a few times a year. I guess when you throw a 4th child in the mix, people feel more apt to make a comment?
Or if you have all the same sex children.



    August 12, 2017 at 1:43 am

    I only have three but I get these comments all the time – maybe because my kids are all still very little so it looks like more work/chaos? And I get a lot of, “oh, you got your girl, are you going to stop now?” because my oldest two are boys and the baby is a girl. I always wonder how that makes the boys feel – it’s not like they were mistakes and I only wanted a girl!



    August 12, 2017 at 6:19 am

    Yes unfortunately 🙁 Mostly about gender.



    Leighann
    June 17, 2020 at 7:10 pm

    One of the things my sister in law says is the reason she loves the Midwest so much– when my brother’s job changed and they could move to the Midwest, the comments about her six children she’d get were mostly encouraging/happy for her/kind. In California and Virgina where they lived before, she’d get rude comments almost daily just going about her business.



Heather
August 12, 2017 at 4:01 am

Thank you! I’ve had a cashier ask straight up, “Were they planned?” I was so shocked I couldn’t even respond. Later I wished I’d said something like, “Yes, now let’s talk about your sex life! What kind of family planning methods are you using?”



Loretta
August 13, 2017 at 3:18 am

It sounds to me like the author is LOOKING for a reason to be offended. Try growing a thicker skin!



    Silvie
    August 13, 2017 at 4:20 am

    I dont think so..i used to say the same things unknowingly-Before Children. Now i see the other side of things and yes you can get one too many remarks and that simply makes you snap and want to retaliate.



    August 13, 2017 at 8:28 am

    When someone says they feel sorry for you because of the children you have you don’t need to look hard.



    Christy
    August 15, 2017 at 3:01 pm

    Loretta, sounds like you’re the one looking for attention. My guess is you’re jealous of the author, because God’s blessed her with 4 beautiful girls.



    Becca S
    November 16, 2017 at 5:07 am

    Trust me, she’s not. I’m expecting daughter #4 and my husband and I get all kinds of rude comments about having all girls. It’s one of those things that’s tough to believe unless you’ve experienced it first hand. My mom was with us once when a woman was laughing about our three daughters, and my mom was just shocked by how people were being (she doesn’t live near us so she hadn’t experienced that before). It’s so easy to judge others until you’ve walked a bit in their shoes.



Patty
August 13, 2017 at 5:17 am

We had friends who only had three children. The dad’s snarky comment was always…..”Yeah, they’re all ours. We had six, but we got rid of the ugly ones.” 😂😂😂



Asha Fotos
August 13, 2017 at 2:04 pm

People don’t understand how rude they’re being. One woman who hardly knew me at a retreat that we go to in the summer actually told me that I should keep my legs closed after I had my fourth. I haven’t seen her since but God help her if I do…



Mary
August 13, 2017 at 10:20 pm

We have 5 boys and I’m pregnant with #6. I probably won’t announce it publicly on social media because the comments just keep coming. Normally things like that roll off of me but being sick has worn me down emotionally. It’s refreshing and encouraging to know we are not alone.



    Christy
    August 15, 2017 at 3:03 pm

    Congratulations on your 6th blessing!!!



    Leighann
    June 17, 2020 at 7:13 pm

    Congrats! I have six older brothers, was the first girl, then my parents had my little brother and little sister after me. If you ever have a girl, know she’ll be in good hands. The whole time I was dating I could tell how good a guy was based off his reaction of me saying I had seven brothers 😂



Rachael M
August 14, 2017 at 10:25 am

I love this! I will definitely be using a lot of them. I have 5 boys and in 15 yrs of motherhood I remember only 2x, TWO, that someone didn’t say something negative. I was told “So awesome” once and “aren’t boys the best?!”. I was so shocked and happy about it LOL. Mostly people say such rude things, everything and more of what you get but over boys. Didn’t you want a girl? Are you going to try for a girl? Awww you’re outnumbered poor thing. It’s SO aggravating!



Anne Fujimura
August 14, 2017 at 10:50 pm

Because our children are a mixed race and tend to look more asian like their dad, people would often ask me where I got my children from, assuming this snowflake white mom could not have birthed these gorgeous half asian babies! I couldn’t believe how rude people were! I started to just reply “they came from my uterus!” That usually made them think twice! With six beautiful children (4 girls and two boys) we have heard it all! And yes, sometimes it takes a snarky answer to make people consider that perhaps their comment was not appropriate! Like the man who graciously helped me with my groceries at a whole sale club store, only to corner me and explain that I should be done having children as I had three little girls too many for his world plan, at the time. Even parents and relatives would make unkind comments when they heard that we were expecting another child. Like, “there’s ways to fix that” or “you do know how to prevent that from happening”. People can just be hurtful when they speak without thinking or just say what’s on their mind when editing their words would be a blessing to everyone around them!



    Amy
    August 15, 2017 at 4:24 am

    “they came from my uterus!” HAHAHAHA that one made me belly laugh. After 7 kids, I may have even tinkled a little. 😉



Kris
August 15, 2017 at 5:00 am

Try being the infertile couple who after 11 years still have no children. The comments we get are just horrible. “Maybe you were not meant to be patents.” “Things happen in God’s time.” Oh really? I am 44, God is running out of time for me! Why don’t you just adopt? Ok, so you are willing to give me 15 grand so we can do that? Great! Trust me we get lots of horrible things said to us. I would love to complain about someone asking why I have so many kids or why they are all girls…haha bring it!



    Amy
    August 15, 2017 at 5:09 am

    We all have our crosses to bear. <3



    Jennifer Cunningham
    July 17, 2019 at 4:07 pm

    I had the same problem. My husband and I were married 7 years and the first of the siblings to get married. People’s comments hurt. It took a while to get pregnant. When a niece or nephew was conceived I cried. After being blessed with two girls close together, I got pregnant a third time. Someone asked if we knew what caused it. Like having 3 was irresponsible. But my husband and I are of the belief that if God wants us to have another baby, we will get pregnant, and children are a blessing from God reguardless. Unfortunately that baby went to heaven before it was born. However I am glad both of my children were girls. They were a gift to each other and we have felt lucky to have them. They are a big handful and are a lot of work, but I feel that the work of raising them will be totally worth it. They are unique and talented and sensitive and energetic and opinionated girls. Someday they will really do some special things.



Carrie
August 16, 2017 at 3:07 am

Great thoughts! We only have one daughter and get comments that are quite the opposite, but equally offensive: “Didn’t you want more?” or “She needs a sibling.” The truth is I did want more and she would like a sibling, but it’s not how life turned out, and I really don’t appreciate being reminded of it all the time.



Shannon
August 17, 2017 at 4:50 am

I love this! As a mother of 5, I used to get this all the time. My favorite was a lady came into where I work and looked at my family picture on my desk and said are they ALL yours? Don’t you know what causes that? I looked right at her, smiled and said Yes, I do…and I am clearly very good at it!



Rhondda Smiley
August 20, 2017 at 7:12 am

Love it. I am one of 5 female siblings and one male so I can relate. I totally agree that it speaks to the lack of respect that our culture extends to children.

Only one beef: ” We’re happy with our children, regardless of their genitalia”. I assume that this is meant to be a response to those who comment on a child’s gender. Gender is not defined by genitalia, sex is. If someone is responding to my child’s outward presentation to the world, that’s gender. Hopefully no one is commenting on my child’s sex, because strangers are not seeing my child’s genitals.

Gender and sex. Two different things.



Deborah
August 21, 2017 at 11:27 am

They are a blessing and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. Your children are adorable.



Darcy
August 22, 2017 at 5:44 am

I have 4 children, 2 are older and 2 are younger. I can safely say that no-one has ever said anything to me about them. I would be pretty hurt with some of the comments people made to some of you.



Bobbi Illing
August 23, 2017 at 9:04 am

I love this. I’m a Grandma now and it’s the best role in life. But I can’t believe what I hear people saying in front of children. And our children miss nothing. Thank you for the words…well done.
Bobbi



August 23, 2017 at 11:31 am

WE had four boys first -then we had a girl. If I had a nickel for every time someone said “now that you’ve got YOUR girl you can quit, right?” My response was “I didn’t have a a fifth child to have a girl, I had a fifth child to have a fifth child – and no, we are not done yet!” And then we went on to have one more son and one more daughter. (And we’d have had another 2 had we not had miscarriages thrown into the mix.)

I did love being stopped in a restaurant once, when we had just the first four kids. The husband commented on our lovely family and asked if I would tell his wife that it’s okay to have more than 2 kids and it’s okay if they’re all the same gender.



August 23, 2017 at 12:11 pm

We have 5 children and live in South Carolina. We have never heard anything but compliments about our family size.



EJ
August 24, 2017 at 4:21 am

I have redheaded identical twin boys, almost 4yo (my first and only children, thanks for not asking). We get insensitive and ignorant comments everywhere we go. Before kids, I was a pathological people-pleaser. Now? I’m a shameless assertive advocate for public decency and minding your own business. 🙂



August 29, 2017 at 5:00 am

This is good. People sure are nosey and opinionated about other people’s families. It’s inappropriate, rude, and it should be called out. It’s insulting to imply that your children are a blessing or punishment based on their gender (or any other characteristic.) It tells children that they are not good enough the way they are and they need to change in ways that are not possible. People really need to think before they speak.



Lyn
September 9, 2017 at 11:34 pm

I have 7. I was asked by a man(!) if I knew what caused it and I said, “Yes. Are you willing to give it up?” and he was speechless.



November 18, 2017 at 10:18 pm

Oh, I just love these! When my daughter first came to us I would get, “Oh, is she yours?” I was so tempted to say, “No, we just found her outside, but I think we’ll keep her…”



Lisa
December 26, 2017 at 11:17 am

I am admittedly that ‘rude’ person who has asked people who have children all of one gender, if they wanted/ would want a child of the other gender. We have 2 daughters and plan on having 2 more children. I can see how it may get annoying for people who get asked this a lot, and maybe we will have it more often in the future. But the truth is, for our own reasons, my husband and I hope we do have at least one boy. If we don’t we won’t be disappointed but it would be nice. We don’t do and ‘gender bias’ things with our daughters, so its not about that. I ask people as a talking point, to find if anyone else shares these feelings. It’s ok to want to have a mix of boys and girls in your family, both genders bring a lovely mix and it shouldn’t be shameful to ask others if they have similar feelings. Anyone could easily get offended at anything you ask them, I plan to keep an open mind and just give the answer without being rude myself. I do it everyday with all our other parenting decisions, so why not this one 😊



Kim E
September 3, 2018 at 7:20 pm

Came across this after googling bc I’m also regularly getting disturbing comments on my daughter, now 2, and she’s starting to be able to understand so I’m strategizing my responses. Yesterday someone who lives in my apt bldg commented on her sucking her thumb- saying it’s going to mess up her teeth and make them stick out. Like I should rip her thumb out of her mouth? Then this same woman commented on how my dog died young (9 years), and her last dog (same breed) lived much longer bc she “took good care” of her.” I did everything I could for my dog and almost went broke in the last year with vet bills trying to save him. I literally just didn’t respond.

My daughter sometimes squints her eyes. We’re taking her to a neurologist but for now we think it may be a tic and have been advised to ignore it- drawing attention to it could make it worse. Someone the other day (again in my apt bldg) commented on it loudly saying “Why is she squinting?” My husband responded he didn’t know. But going forward I think the best response for that – and any rude comment in general – is just to ignore it.



Janis Kaye
October 15, 2018 at 7:50 pm

i wish i wish – someone knew the answer as to why people are so rude – I had two handicapped children it was unbelievable how rude and insensitive people can be in talking about their handicap in front of them – the best was one lady telling me that my children and I should not be put with “normal” people – children are adults now and are living their lives – i now have a lot of rescue dogs and after comments when I had them out at the weekend a man came running after me and said don’t let them bother you – you are doing a good job – anyone any idea a smart answer – i said once why are asking and was told your fault making yourself noticed



February 26, 2019 at 10:11 pm

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You are amazing! Thanks!



Joy
April 26, 2019 at 10:54 am

This article is incredibly insightful for so much of what is occurring in this society. I witness this with my daughter who has four incredible sweet little sons, such very rude comments about all boys. Having two boys and two girls myself who are all grown, I had never experienced the audacity of these rude comments. I did, however, ear over and over (as they were all close in age, 2 boys, then 2 girls all closely spaced), “Are ALL these yours?” They were each born in a different state, so I so often wanted to attest they were kidnapped from four different states to return the jolt of their boldness. I researched this because I am shocked to see what my daughter and her husband experience over and over from (often rude) people commenting about why not a girl, sorry you had all boys. This article depicts this perfectly. I believe I will teach my sweet grandsons how to count to ten in another language, and this will be their cued group response back followed by their group laughter (with sweet polite looks). Perfect! Throw them unexpectedly off rhythm to make them think! 🙂



Jess
June 19, 2019 at 1:54 pm

I enjoyed this article. I just found out that I am pregnant with baby #7. I have 5 boys and 1 girl. The things that are said are incredibly inappropriate! Today at my OB office (i have been there 13 years), all of the staff made horrible comments. A nurse had the audacity to say that “there’s still a chance of a miscarriage!” She said it like it was a hopeful thing that I should be lucky to experience! They’re supposed to be the best dr in my area and right now..the only ones that accept my insurance locally located. I’m devastated. I cried all the way home. People act like its their business!



Joy
July 4, 2019 at 3:27 am

Jess … Someone told me long ago, despite my anticipation of remarks for another baby, “God is BLESSING you with another child, because you’re a great Mom.” You are amazing, and your children will in their unique ways in the years to come tell you and show you this. THEY are the only ones who matter! Congratulations!! 🙂



Jennifer Cunningham
July 17, 2019 at 4:40 pm

I have a hard time with people making comments about my children’s behavior. They both have ADHD and severe anxiety issues that have developed into some OCD tendencies. They both have sensory sensitivities that they cannot help. Sometimes they just get overwhelmed and either get too hyper and have trouble controlling it, or get too emotional and can’t calm down or get unstuck from it. Sometimes it has been a full blown panic attack or tirade. Their disabilities make them a target for bullies as well. It has sometimes been hard to anticipate a trigger. The complications of these problems can affect their health and self esteem. Please don’t talk about diet. Children with anxiety and sensory issues are not eager to try different kinds of foods, nor a variety. Yes, I did feed them a variety of healthy foods as infants. It has been a challenging road getting them the right kinds of counseling, diet and medications and correct dosages that help them to be in control of themselves and feeling happy and more confident. We are still working on some things. My daughter had an eventful and emotionally charged weekend once. We went out to eat with my parents for lunch and my youngest had a meltdown. My husband was helping me carry her out. A lady chased us out the door yelling at my kid to behave and told us we needed to get a belt. Sometimes I just wish someone would have just opened the door for me and said, “hang in there.” Sometimes my kids are just hyper or a little inattentive. The focus is always on the negative, not on the sweet things my daughters did. They are not trying to be disrespectful. Sometimes they are just busy chasing butterflies and don’t realize they are not listening.



Ama
August 5, 2019 at 6:04 pm

A great response from a movie (I forgot the name of it) lol. “You are speaking on emotion without the benefit of intellect.”



    Amanda
    November 21, 2019 at 1:33 am

    I am coming from a store just now, the lady looks at me and asks how old my boy is. I then ask my son to answer her. He’s says his age and she goes you’re too short! I tell her straight out are they supposed to be the same??!! The kids are not supposed to be the same, she goes on I thought he was 5, Im like keep your opinion to yourself don’t say that to my child. I felt bad but this is making me feel greats it’s annoying!



Melody
December 4, 2019 at 2:53 pm

Oh, how I love this!

We have one beautiful blue eyed angel and she is the best mix of mom and dad. I love getting to be her sidekick in life. We’ve been thankful and so happy that I can not worry about a paying $ job and completely focus on her education and having a happy childhood. I use to get so anxious after a stranger in some store or place would ask why she wasn’t in school. Now I just look at them and smile while asking “What makes you think she’s not learning?” Never get a response. Just smile and walk away. First of all, she’s only 4. We didn’t plan to have a child just to send her away all day. Geez!

Thank you for doing what you do! I’m new to your blog but what I’ve read so far as eased this mamas heart and I know I’m not alone in this crazy but wonderful world of being a parent.



Tiffany
January 1, 2020 at 6:32 am

As a mother of three boys (and one on the way) I can completely relate to this article. Unfortunately, most of the comments I hear come from family members. My mother had four girls and all my sisters are this way (even mom to an extent). Today was the last straw; they don’t yet know about my pregnancy and I won’t tell them either. They won’t ever see this last child. I’m cutting out all toxic people.



Moh
July 18, 2020 at 10:58 pm

It double standard and the both genders have theirs.what he said my be wrong to you but that how society will see it no matter you like it or not,even if they don’t say it to you directly.so you will choose to just ignore it and move on with your life instead of seeking validation



Susie
August 2, 2021 at 1:21 pm

It might be possible you could be misunderstanding the intent of these comments. If I saw your family, I would definitely think “wow 4 girls!” My intent with that thought has NOTHING to do with your actual children or their gender. It is entirely surprise and admiration for how much work that is. I seriously can’t even keep my own life together, let alone having 4 children. In regards to the gender, the majority of friends I have with both genders agree that females are harder to raise(not *all*, just the majority). So, having 4 girls instead of boys is *typically* perceived as more difficult; leading to more admiration for how much work that is.

There is no excuse for the people that say “didn’t you want a boy?”. Those are just miserable, rude, sexist people and I’m sorry you have to deal with that. I just think the majority of the people making a comment aren’t being negative about your kids, they are in awe of YOUR ability to care for them. Your responses outlined above seem equivalent to you wearing four Olympic gold medals and someone admiring the “FOUR gold medals!” and you turning and saying “yea I just love GOLD medals” with a passive-aggressive tone. I’d probably immediately apologize and step back. It’s entirely rude of the people who say “didnt you want a silver medal?”, but most people are just admiring the work ethic it took to get any medal, let alone 4. Maybe I’m wrong, but just giving a different perspective.



Felicia
January 14, 2022 at 8:30 pm

My son -in-law has a six year old boy from a previous marriage. He is biracial (his mom is Asian) and is the sweetest kid! He is my bonus grandchild! Both my daughter and I have gotten comments when we’ve been out and about with him and his two younger brothers (who are blonde and blue eyed) such as “Where does he come from?” “Was he adopted?” and even “Does he feel left out?” People are unbelievably rude!



Tanya
February 12, 2022 at 6:58 am

I have had my biological girls for 28 years and i still get, are you their step mother? Or my husband gets, are they from your first wife? Now my boys are adopted. Lol i dont have that problem because they just know.



Dala
August 20, 2022 at 5:57 am

Please someone write about to respond to people who make rude comments about special needs children! I never know how to respond in the moment.



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