Comments on: How to Handle Demanding Children

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By: Kerry Hunter

Kerry Hunter — Sat, 28 Nov 2020 16:41:02 +0000

Loved this vey informative article, My 9 year old isn’t demanding of me but she tries to control and demand things rudely of her 6 year old brother. The way she often talks to him is awful and upsetting to him and me… Any guidance on how I could handle this? Thanksy

By: A Lady of Reason

A Lady of Reason — Mon, 03 Sep 2018 23:34:30 +0000

You’re right we have to hold ourselves to the higher standard, not our kids, who are indeed just learning. I think you said this in some previous article, or someone else did, but it goes “imagine your kids are a person from a different culture…” That really puts it in perspective that they’re learning what’s appropriate in our society, and will make mistakes. Would we treat a person from a foreign culture who was mistakenly rude like a child? No! We would explain with patience and understanding what the right thing to do is! We expect the worst of children, but never seem to realize they simply might not know or think they’ve offended. It’s so disheartening the amount of projecting and defensiveness of adults towards the intentions of kids far too young to consciously manipulate with malicious intent! We preach we ought to see the best in people, but apparently not our own offspring! Such hypocrisy and what a strange paradox!

That said, it is easier said than done, as most of us have experiences the rude,demanding person and we don’t want our kids to be that way either. That tone would “trigger” me too, as I’ve experienced peers talking to me that way, in that demanding, rude and authoritarian tone, and I had to learn to stick up for myself and put them in their place! Your article reminds me and others to take a step back and see the underlying need, behind the demand. The disease, not just the symptom…

By: Kat

Kat — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 21:17:21 +0000

I struggle with this more than anything! My middle child (7) is very demanding and I have the worst time trying to connect with her when she gets this way. She likes to repeat things over and over and won’t let a word in. So I calmly try to wait it out, but it gets to me and I end up raising my voice and getting frustrated. I’m aware of it and I’m trying though!

By: Rachel

Rachel — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 14:49:35 +0000

This is beautiful advice thank you! Everything you speak of echoes everything we try to do for our children, admittedly some moments still catch us out! But reading things like this helps give us fresh ideas of different phrases to try. Thank you so much for sharing

By: Anna

Anna — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 08:16:32 +0000

Thank you! I needed this reminder. And I think adults often demand things of children, do this, do that, don’t do that, right this instance. How can we expect children to learn not to be demanding when they here it from us all the time.