Comments on: I don’t want obedient children

By: Momof3

Momof3 — Thu, 04 Aug 2022 19:25:38 +0000

Sorry for the text mistakes. I do not have my glasses and my keyboard on my phone is small for my swollen fingers. So I apologize for the grammer errors.

By: Momof3

Momof3 — Thu, 04 Aug 2022 19:20:05 +0000

I agree with Happy Mum above and the one under her. I was raised by a mother who used the phrase “because I said so” and I can tell you it did not stop me one bit from being (tou dont BECOME, your born wirh that personality) that child and now adult to question things. I was a difficult child and a stubborn adult to this day, wanting to always question things. I look back on my parents as doing the best they thought at the time and for rhe time. As a parent of 3 boys myself, now also adults.I found myself understanding more of why I was taught the way I was. Iv learned that not every child is the same, have the same personality, traits and so forth. Each one of my boys are different in so many ways, Yet have some of the same traits as they are a mix of mine and my husband’s genes. Two of then needed little to mo disabling and the third, much like myself, pushed me to the edge so many times I lost count.All raised the same, same parents, same household. All grew up to be good men. I also had a abusive father (not the man I was raised by) come into my life in my late teens, as he decided that was the appropriate time to introduce himself. So I learned from him the difference between what discipline and abuse was. That to me is the problem today. Is some adult’s do not. They are afraid of disciplining thier children in fear of it being looked at as abuse. The simple rules is easy. Stay away from the 4 B”s. No blood,broken bones or bruise or bad feelingss and then you know it is not abuse. By bad feelings I mean if your child HATES you, is scared of you or feels in anyway that they are not loved or doesn’t love you, then you know you crossed the line. I always said to my mom, I may dislike you (or things she said or did) but I always loved her.My sperm done however is a whole other story.

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Obedience is Not the Goal – Tending Lambs — Thu, 09 May 2019 09:04:17 +0000

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By: Susan A

Susan A — Sun, 05 May 2019 20:42:46 +0000

In reply to Angus. I've been saying to this to everyone I know, and it all falls on deaf ears, My 12-year-old daughter has a passion for cooking right now. (Heck there are kids on the food network cooking like the adults... Master chef JR, to kids baking competitions. I let her decide on what to make for dinner a lot and she is pretty creative But I do know that if she decides to be a chef or just a home cook, or a food truck operator or whatever she decides to do in life she will be happy. She also knows that she can be good at more than one thing. She also knows that there is not only one right answer to everything.

By: Susan A

Susan A — Sun, 05 May 2019 20:27:07 +0000

In reply to Sara @ Happiness is here. Exactly! I couldn't have said it better.

By: Jeff Bennett

Jeff Bennett — Mon, 11 Mar 2019 23:59:10 +0000

In reply to kathryn. I actually agree too. The author definitely must have been in a household where parents let every subject of “needing to do” be up for debate. There’s nothing wrong with having one’s own personality and character and coming into one’s self. But there is something wrong when you have a child question everything said by an adult as if it was up for debate. I don’t know many adults who’s set their children up for failure when it comes to their safety and well-being. I’m not one of them. So yes, I want an obedient child, who becomes a RESPECTFUL adult, not an OBEDIENT one. BIG DIFFERENCE.