Many of the questions I get from people are concerned with if they are doing ‘enough’ with their kids. And as yet my answer has never been ‘no’. Sometimes unschooling feels so easy that you don’t realise how much you are actually doing. It is just life. It’s unrushed and leisurely learning, which makes it seem like you’re not doing much at all. If you write down every single thing you do in a week I bet you’d be surprised though. All the questions, the play, the creating, there’s so much when you look closely. The people that ask this question then go on to tell me that their children do sports, read books, play outside, paint, play with siblings and friends, draw pictures, write letters, have interests, help at home, and a host of other things. But still it seems to them that they should be doing more. No, that’s really enough!
Actually, that’s perfect! You don’t need to fill up the hours from 9am to 3pm packed full of activities. The beauty of choosing to home educate means we aren’t confined to the same rules as school. Learning happens whenever there is a desire for it, not at scheduled times. All we need to do is let it happen and support it. Sure, give your children opportunities and experiences, but don’t feel pressured to be providing something new every day. There is as much learning in the quiet times as there is in the busy times.
When you start to wonder if you’re doing ‘enough’, maybe you could ask yourself some of these questions…
Is my child happy?
Does my child love learning?
Does my child have plenty of unstructured play time?
Does my child get outside enough?
Am I allowing opportunities to be involved in daily life?
Is my child taking the lead in their own learning?
Am I supportive of my child’s ideas (without taking over)?
Is my child actually asking to do more, or is it what I think I should be doing?
I think the first question is the most important. Unschooling is about forgetting the ‘rules’. Don’t worry about what you’ve been told they need to know. Is your child happy? Then there’s your answer. Go live your awesome life!