‘Life is not all fun and games’
‘Life isn’t meant to be easy’
How many times have you heard these phrases? Where did they come from? Why such a pessimistic view of life? Who says it can’t be easy? Who says you can’t spend your life doing things you enjoy? Isn’t that actually what we’re aiming for?
I hear it all the time. I see it used as an argument against our lifestyle often. It’s too idealistic. Kids need to learn they can’t just do what they want all the time. They need to get used to the ‘real world‘. You can’t just do whatever you like! One day they’re going to have to grow up and fit in. Didn’t you know? You can’t just go around being happy and creating the life you want! Hey, you might make other people uncomfortable! Stop that right now. Fit nicely into society’s narrative of what a life is supposed to look like thank you very much.
“When you grow up you tend to get told that the world is the way it is and your life is just to live your life inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much. Try to have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money. That’s a very limited life. Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact: Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it… Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again.” -Steve Jobs
Who says life is supposed to be hard/dreary/boring/predictable? We were sold the idea that our goal was to grow up, get educated, get a job, get married, have kids, work hard, buy a house, save money… And THEN after all our hard work we could retire and enjoy ourselves. Only then would our time be our own. If you decide to break from that path then people try to quickly pull you back into line. They tell you that ‘it’s not all fun and games’, that you’re too idealistic. But their view says more about how they feel about their own circumstances and limitations than it does about your reality. They can’t see that it could be different, or that it’s ok to want different. But maybe we don’t have to follow the story we were told? Maybe you can enjoy your life now. Maybe happiness isn’t something you have to earn. Maybe you’ve always been worthy of it.
So if you don’t mind, or if you do, I’m going to enjoy my life now. And I’m going to let my kids do the same. Starting with freeing them from the conventional education system and letting them enjoy their childhood however they want, not how somebody else wants them to. Maybe then they’ll grow up with a more positive outlook, knowing their life can look however they want it to. You can’t control everything of course. But why not control the things you can? Life can be what you make it. You don’t have to follow the standard plan. Do something different. Do whatever makes you happy.