Yes. They will.
And it’s your job to get comfortable with that.
If you want to educate your children for freedom, to be unique individuals, to find what lights them up and follow it, then you must get used to the fact that they will have ‘gaps’. And you must adjust your expectations.
What even are gaps?
That depends what you think an education is. Do you desire a shallow education that touches on every subject just a little? Then maybe school is for you.
Or, do you think being educated means loving learning, knowing how to learn and find the information you need, being resourceful, creative, and adaptable, having practical knowledge and skills, becoming an expert in the things that interest you? Then maybe unschooling is your best option.
The thing is, maybe option 1 will make you feel comfortable that things are less likely to be ‘missed’. But are they? Just because children are presented with information, doesn’t mean they have really learned it.
“Learning can only happen when a child is interested. If he’s not interested, it’s like throwing marshmallows at his head and calling it eating.” — Katrina Gutleben
Very little is truly learned in school. We all know this. Ask any adult what they remember and they can probably count on one hand. You cannot force a person to learn, least of all in an uninspiring and controlling environment.
Even if we lived in a magical land where children learned all the information that was thrown at them in school, do you think that would still leave no ‘gaps’? Think about it. Is it possible to cover all the information that every child will need in their life and their chosen career? Are we expecting them to all have the same job at the end? Are they all meant to be interested in the same thing? No.
Do we actually even believe there is a magical curriculum made up of the essential knowledge all humans need to learn by age 17? Of course not.
“Human communities depend upon a diversity of talent, not a singular conception of ability.” -Sir Ken Robinson
The truth is, there is no option that doesn’t leave ‘gaps’. And covering every single thing shouldn’t be the goal. That’s not how we need to define education, and that’s not how learning works.
Education is not stuffing as much information into a small child’s brain as possible for 13 years and calling it a job well done. It is inspiring confident and capable learners who know who they are and never stop learning. Then, the gaps don’t matter. They are just avenues for discovery.
In school, there is no adjusting for individual differences and desires. No pursuing your interests which you might one day make a job out of. You study what they tell you. That leaves many gaps, probably the most detrimental ones.
What it really comes down to is this: EVERYONE has gaps in their learning. Get comfortable with it. There are things you haven’t learned yet. When you need to know them, you learn them. If you think school is some kind of guarantee of an ‘education’ then you are kidding yourself. What a boring world it would be if we all had the same knowledge and skills anyway.
Instead of arguing over what should be taught, it’s time to focus on how. Because when you know that the education your children are getting is one that encourages continuous learning, passion, discovery, self-motivation, confidence, satisfaction, creativity, joy, mastery, and the growth of a unique individual, then there is no need to worry about ‘gaps’. You know that with that background they’ll be well equipped to learn whatever they truly need to in their own individual life.